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1. Don’t fight over something that’s none of your business, or that you can’t do anything about.
2. Think about the consequences of the argument. Are they worth it?
3. Determine what the conflict is really about. Once you do this, then decide if it’s worth bringing up. If it is, address the underlying issue, not the superficial one.
4. Make sure the argument is going to solve something.
5. Don’t fight just because you “feel you’ve been challenged.”
6. Ask yourself, “Is it really a big deal?” Chances are that it’s not.
7. Realize that you don’t always have to have the last word, and often it takes the “bigger person” to simply let the conflict go.
8. Ask yourself, “Am I really right? Does it matter if I’m right? Is there really a ‘right or wrong’ for this issue?”
9. Is this an issue you’ll remember in five years? In one year or six months, even? If not, don’t fight it.

i’ve tried this and it doesn’t really work for me but i honestly believe in this

someone tattoo this on my whole body.

i use most of this…but i guess i gotta read it daily to truly implement it in my brain.